Self-Love Languages – The Powerful Pillars to Cultivating Your Love Needs

Our main mission here at Love You Too is manifesting self-love. But how does one work on cultivating their self-love? The answer lies in learning how to apply YOUR love languages to yourself. Self-Love languages fall into five categories: Physical Touch, Acts of service, Receiving gifts, Words of Affirmation, and Quality Time. 

You might know how you prefer to give love to others, but is it the same way you give love to yourself? The answer is maybe. While some have the same love language for giving and receiving love, others give love in a different way than they receive love.

You might be wondering how to know what your self-love language is. One option is to take a quiz online. Or you can look inward to decide which of the five categories fills up your cup most.

• Physical Touch – Things that make your body feel good and focusing on your physical well being
• Acts of Service – Doing things for yourself that make life easier and more structured
• Receiving Gifts – Buying gifts for yourself and spending money on things that bring you joy
• Words of Affirmation – Giving yourself pep talks and encouraging words
• Quality Time – Spending time alone, time with your hobbies, and doing what you love

Why is it important to figure out how you want to receive self-love?

Giving yourself love is one of the key ingredients for building self-compassion! When we take care of ourselves, we lower our stress levels, make room for personal growth, and thus transform our relationships with others and with ourselves.

How does that show up in my life? I used to be trapped in spirals of self-judgement and self-hate because I didn’t love myself. When you’re stuck in those spirals you’re also stuck in a confirming bias of why you are not good enough or not-[insert here]-enough. Now I can start to believe it instead of discredit it when I find proof of how I AM enough, worthy of love, etc.

So how do you practice this self-love business?

• Physical Touch – massages, spa days, soft blankets/clothes, joyful movement, skin care
• Acts of Service – therapy, organizing, cleaning, delegating, planners
• Receiving Gifts – going out, shopping, buying craft supplies, investing in yourself
• Words of Affirmation – positive self-talk, daily affirmations, journaling
• Quality Time – Meditations, hobbies, reading, art, take yourself on a date

Your relationship with yourself is the longest relationship you will ever have. Once you start to cultivate it, you will start to see your world shift. Self-love is a deliberate act you can make to take better care of yourself and build up that self-compassion. Don’t forget Rupaul says “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gunna love somebody else?!”